Parents beware

Sometimes it’s really tough being a parent. I mean really tough. It’s not a whine because the whole deal of parenting is too rewarding to whine about, but it’s hard to watch your kids grow without getting affected by their situations. Sometimes the best legacy you can give your child is the skills to overcome the problems they face.

As your kids are challenged and you stand beside them advising and assuring them, it’s hard not to live their life for them and even harder to let them battle situations with their own skills. It’s difficult to allow your child to experience the hurt and adversity they need to face to learn how to overcome life.

Relationship issues are tricky at every stage of their lives and as we all know, well into adulthood. Friendships are formed and lost. Cat Stevens informed us through song, “The first cut is the deepest” and how right he was. When you’re the parent of the gutted it can be extremely difficult to support your child without attempting to shield all forms of pain from their daily lives. It’s easier to avoid and hide rather than to face and fight. If they’ve been frozen out of a friendship it’s easy to blame others. When they face their first break-up or get ditched for someone else they have to learn how to stay happy regardless of how they are treated by those who crush their feelings.

Some tips on handling tough calls in parenting:

* The freeze out. For some unknown reason your child has every kid in the school wanting to either beat them up or never speak to them again.

Solution – Sleep on it because tomorrow will come and some other poor sucker will be in the bad books with everyone for no apparent reason.

* My boy/girlfriend ditched me for someone else. Lots of tears, melancholy music and chatting on Facebook.

Solution – Never do the “plenty of fish in the sea” talk- really poor taste and extremely annoying for any age group. Plenty of chocolate, hugs and positive social media chatting.

* The more confusing from the previous- my boy/girlfriend ditched me for NO reason.

Solution - There probably is a reason and everyone else in their social circle has the details.

* I’m bored.

Solution - Blah. Only boring people get bored.

* I want to leave school.

Solution - That’s O.K as long as you finish your PHD first.

* I want a tatt and body piercing.

Solution - You get a tongue piercing and I’ll rip it out. You get a tatt I’ll rip it off. This method only works if you yourself are embellishment free.

* Mrs… we have your child at the police station.

Solution - If it’s 2.00 am roll over and go back to sleep. You are probably dreaming. If not, consider their time away from you as a well-earned rest.